I don't remember the first time my wife and I talked about kids, but it was long before we got married. It definitely wasn't on the first date, because if she did that, I'm not sure there would have been a second date. First dates are for shallow niceties like what television shows you watch. Unless you met each other beforehand on eHarmony, I guess.
So my wife and I agreed a while ago that we would like three kids. Our eight-month-old Matthew is the first. Then we'll try to have a second in the next year or so. And then maybe after that we might try adopting, mainly because that's what all the celebrities are doing, and they're the coolest.
But it's good we talked about it early in our relationship. What would happen if I decided I just wanted to raise an only child, some boy or girl genius who would be lonely and way too mature for his age because all he did was hang out with adults? And what if my wife decided that she wanted to have a set of octuplets, after already having six kids under the age of 7?
Yes, yes. That's where I'm going with this. Nadya Suleman, the woman from Los Angeles who recently did just that. Six apparently wasn't enough, so Suleman decided to have eight more. It's unclear whether she used fertility drugs or in vitro fertilization, but either way, she now has the ability to field an entire football team with immediate blood relatives.
Now Suleman is a single mother. Her decisions are her own, and I'm not going to judge her. If she wanted her placenta to look like the back of a desktop PC, all the power to her (power, ha ha). She's just lucky her delivery doctor wasn't looking for the USB outlet to plug in his Webcam.
But that is neither here nor there, and yes, it's true that I was just looking for a good spot to insert the phrase "neither here nor there." The bottom line is that if you're not married, or you're newly married, or hell, you've been married a couple years but don't have kids yet, it might be a good idea to discuss with your significant other how many kids you want to have. That way you won't be so aghast when your partner's AOL search logs come up with searches for "Clomid," "how to have octuplets," and finally, "Human Chorionic Gonadotropin," which I just looked up.
Because if you have too many kids early on, there won't be room to adopt, and all the celebrities will be disappointed in you.
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We don't know what kind of conversation she previously had w/ her doctors. I would imagine they tried to discourage her from having any more kids or made sure she fully understood the consequences of fertility drugs. I hope she has the support she needs from her family because she is going to need it!!!!Also I think she can get more than $2 mil for her story from Oprah!!!
good point, i think that suleman is insane, and i feel sorry for those kids. I think you should definitely be on the same page with your significant other on # of kids because it will only cause problems if you do not.
I think if people want to have children and they aren't married thats ok, but if you don't have a great job and still live with your parents you're not really in a great situation, and 14 might be a little overboard. especially when you're already that old. I think nadya is going to have her hands full, and then some.
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